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These are two of the aprons I recently made for my “girls” which includes my daughter, two daughters-in-law, and one to-be. I found a complete set of days of the week dish towels that had never been used at an old lady garage sale last summer and have been saving them to recycle into pockets for aprons. This was a fun project and who can’t use a fresh apron from time to time?

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“Sometimes more isn’t better, Linus. Sometimes it is just more.” Sabrina Fairchild

Thirty years ago we moved back to the US after living in Europe for 3½ years and without returning here during that time. I remember being amazed at the flatness of the landscape after living at the base of the Alps during our time in Germany. I remember being alarmed at the clutter that Americans allow everywhere from the outside of our houses to the city sidewalks. But more than anything, I remember being amazed at just how much stuff you could buy. After living on a small military post with few American items in the commissary and being unable to shop on the German economy on a sergeant’s salary, I was in awe of the things you could find in a single store. And that was in the days before Target and Wal-Mart, not to mention the super stores!

After my grandmother died, the whole family, her sons, their wives and children, and grandchildren went to her house to choose what things they might like to have. There were a few valuable items…several handmade quilts, a china cabinet with curved glass, an oak table my grandfather had purchased when they were married in 1914 (I was the blessed recipient of it simply because I had the most children) and various other treasures. But by and large her home looked like most others whose owners that had come through the Great Depression. Drawers held bits of string, cabinets stored chipped china tea cups, and the rag rugs were made from real rags.

Inside one of her storage boxes we found worn brown grocery bags covered with lists of items purchased along with how much she had paid for each one…10 cents for a dozen eggs, 35 cents for a pound of sugar, 20 cents for large can of peaches. She had lived very meagerly for most of her life, a fact that was even more apparent when a bank book to a secret account was found, showing she had hoarded away nearly $60,000 from grandpa’s pension checks after he’d died!

Every day now we hear bad news about our economy and many in my generation, baby boomers who grew up in the luxury of the 1950’s, are panicked because they see portfolios growing anemic and real estate investments dwindling. Ours is the first generation that has not lived with the direct ramifications of the Depression and we don’t know how to handle it. Things that are truly luxuries have become “necessities.” The same is true, even more so, for our children.

But what are true riches? And what kind of inheritance should we be building for our children? Scripture is very clear. “Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. (Matthew 6:19-21)

The word “treasure” isn’t just talking about something you like a little, it implies a treasury, a great store house for all the incredible assets you can collect. Egyptians buried their earthly wealth in their tombs and it is said that those who found King Tutankhaman’s burial vault were shocked at the nearly 3500 items it contained and so much gold that it “blinded their eyes!” Jesus told the multitude of listeners to forget storing up earthly goods that can be destroyed and instead to seek after a plentiful inheritance of those things that enrich not the body but the spirit, treasures of the eternal sort.

English Puritan pastor Jeremiah Burrows describes these treasures as “soul riches” and says that only those who learn how to be truly content will be able to gather those things that are of eternal value. He describes Christian contentment as “that sweet, inward, quiet, gracious frame of spirit, which freely submits to and delights in God’s wise and fatherly disposal in every condition.” In essence, soul riches are those things that we cannot buy or sell at a garage sale!

Moms, I pray that you are seeking to be content, as the apostle Paul said “in whatever state you find yourself” and that you are passing along that attitude to your children, especially now when economic wealth is in the news and on the lips of everyone daily. Seek to pass along spiritual truths, especially as found in God’s Word, testimonies of His goodness and grace to us, poured out way beyond measure. In so doing you will be storing up eternal treasures for yourself and will be giving your children an inheritance that cannot be taken from them.

Men and Post Abortion Trauma, Part Two. “One of the most amazing works of religious art that has ever been created was Rembrandt’s painting called “The Storm on the Sea of Galilee. Capturing the human drama of the moment, Rembrandt’s work shows the disciples holding on to the wooden ship for dear life as the foreboding sea and dark sky swirl around them. Fearful and faithless, they could not see the Lord in the midst of their storm because they were only looking at the circumstances around them, in their eyes, shipwreck was certain.” Listen to this week’s podcast in part two of the series on ministering to those who struggle with the pain of a past abortion.

One more link today….this time one that is a little more fun and less depressing! In fact, I made this recipe a couple nights ago and it was a cheer-you-upper! I will go on record as saying it is the best homemade rib sauce I have ever made and I can’t wait to try it on chops and chicken, especially on the grill. I discovered this website a month or so ago and have been testing out the recipes….”YUM!” says my whole family. And who can go wrong with a blog name like Mennonite Girls Can Cook?

Honey Garlic Ribs

4 pounds pork ribs
1/2 cup honey
1 cup ketchup
1/4 cup soy sauce
4 cloves crushed garlic (I used bottled minced garlic)
1 tsp. coarse pepper (I used fresh ground)
1 tsp. salt (I used coarse kosher salt)

Place ribs in large roasting pan with about 1/2 inch of water. Cover and bake at 350 degrees for 1 1/2 hours. Drain water from roaster.

Combine remaining ingredients to make sauce. pour over the ribs and bake for another 1/2 to 1 hour, basting ribs occasionally with the sauce.

I doubled the recipe so I would have leftovers and made a little extra sauce. Next time I will drain the meat in a colander to be sure all the grease and water is drained off. You will enjoy the sauce for dipping, too, and over mashed potatoes, which is how I served it.

* Note: I have been tweaking this recipe and would recommend the following changes: Cover the ribs with water and bake at 375 degrees for 2 hours. Drain thoroughly in colander. Return to pan and top with sauce, turn over all ribs so they are covered. Bake at 375 for 1 1/2 hours or until meal falls from bone. Patience is the key to perfect ribs!

Lots of great discussion over on Taunya’s blog regarding the marketing of the Titus 2 woman! She now has the first five parts online with more to come. God bless Taunya and these other dear women who are sharing their lives with the rest of us. Taunya has nailed it, calling it spiritual abuse, which is exactly what it is.

You also need to check out Cindy’s recent series of articles on the concept of “multigenerational faithfulness.” Once again, Cindy has done her homework, to our benefit, and has done an excellent job of presenting facts and helping us understand both the sources and implications of this new catch-phrase in homeschooling. My prediction is that we will be hearing this phrase used repeatedly over the next couple of years at homeschooling conferences, though many will never understand what it really means in practicality for their families.

Tim Martin, a homeschool graduate who is part of an organization called Beyond Creation Science, has written a thoughtful review of Sonlight Curriculum’s banning from the Christian Home Educators of Colorado. A proponent of an old-earth perspective on creation and the preterist view of eschatology, particularly as he believes they relate to each other, Martin writes a detailed analysis of CHEC’s narrowing views of what does and does not constitute “Christian curriculum” when it comes to vendors at their convention.

Until I looked over Martin’s website, I was unfamiliar with their teachings on what they call “new covenant creation” though I have studied preterism. Since I have always considered myself to be a young earth creationist, his arguments are new information but I believe they would certainly fall within what I would consider to be orthodoxy as related to the Christian faith. In fact, I would challenge homeschoolers to look at the doctrinal statements of their own denominations in regards to these positions. (I would differentiate between historic preterism and dominion theology as expressed within homeschooling circles.)

Interestingly, Kevin Swanson’s own Orthodox Presbyterian Church denomination has no problem with ordaining elders and deacons who hold to an old-earth view and I personally know of an ordained pastor within that denomination who also holds to a preterist view of the end times.

These are not issues that establish orthodoxy in most churches so I don’t understand why CHEC is seeking to use them as standards within a homeschooling organization. As Martin has pointed out, CHEC is attempting to censor and control what individual families will think and teach rather than trusting parents to do the job God has given them to do in educating their own children. This becomes further proof that their circle of orthodoxy is a shrinking one.

I truly understand what Martin is saying and what John Holzman has experienced, especially the disingenuous way in which it has been done. This is the same methodology that has been used to control and “interpret” the various views within homeschooling that aren’t in alignment with “patriocentricity” and the reason many of us who hold to traditionally conservative views on the roles of men and women can be labeled as “white washed feminists.” It is this sort of bowdlerization that results in division and dissension within the homeschooling community.

I will continue to keep you posted on new developments regarding this situation and any other examples of this sort of behavior coming out of the self-appointed homeschooling “leadership.”

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“From the lips of children and infants
you have ordained praise
because of your enemies,
to silence the foe and the avenger.” ~ Psalm 8:2

HT: Cindy

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Only a film of daylight filtered through the oiled paper of its single windowpane. Cold shadows filled the corners and stretched long-wavering fingers toward the hearth. A log snapped in the fire and dropped. Nancy Lincoln on her bed of saplings wakened, turned and drew the little son only a few hours old closer within the warm circle of her arm. She saw now that he was thin and angular, not round and comforting as his sister, Sarah, had been, but as she watched his even breathing, her smile was tender, and when she lifted her eyes to the shadows, they were warm and dark and full of dreams for him.

A sudden gust of wind spiraled down the chimney. The bear skin flapped in the doorway, and with a whirl of snow in upon the hard dirt floor came Dennis Hanks, nine years old and completely breathless. Tom had told them, he gasped. Aunt Betsy Sparrow was now on her way, fetching a linsey shirt for the boy and a “yeller” petticoat, while he–he’d run the whole two miles to see his new-born cousin! Where was he? Who’d he look like and what was goin’ to be his name?

“Abraham, we figur to call him, after his gran’pappy Linkorn.” Nancy’s slow words were touched with pride as she lifted a corner of the homespun coverlet to display the new arrival. One look left the eager young visitor speechless with dismay.

“He’ll not come to much, I reckon,” he said finally, and as if that settled the matter, went over to the fire and sat down.

from Abraham Lincoln’s World by Genevieve Foster

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A few weeks ago Clay painted Will’s old room so we could have a combination guest room and craft room. I have been busy organizing it, pulling all sorts of sewing treasures out of storage and deciding what to make first. I began with these ballerina rag dolls for my four granddaughters to send them for Valentine’s Day, cocoa colored hair for the two brunettes and honey colored for the blonde and possible-redhead. My inspiration was Alicia Paulson’s book called Stitched in Time.

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Aren’t their faces sweet? I can’t wait to hear what my little valentine girls think of them.

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I have spent much of the last week working on valentines for my granddaughters, little rag doll ballerinas with embroidered faces and pink gossamer tutus. I am hoping to have them finished today and in the mail, knowing they will bring joy to little girls whose grandmama is far away and loves them!

I really enjoy making dolls, perhaps better than any other sort of sewing, miniature people without the pregnancy and labor! But there are tedious aspects of it, stuffing the little legs, crafting the yarn hair, hemming the slippery fabric. I like to keep a picture of the end product in front of me, reminding myself that all the work will be worth it.

When the apostle Paul wrote his second letter to the Corinthians, he was addressing his brothers and sisters in Christ who had been through perilous times as a body of believers and more than anything he wanted them to know that God is a God of comfort who brings you through the difficult times so that you may experience the joy of service to others for God’s glory alone.

But he also wanted them to know that he desired to walk that path with them, building them up in the faith, knowing that faith is what produces joy in a Christian’s life. In 2 Corinthians 1:24, Paul assures these dear believers “Not that we lord it over your faith, but we work with you for your joy, because it is by faith you stand firm.”

Perhaps the most important aspect of being a mom is building our children’s faith and I think it comes most naturally and effectively when we share our lives with our children in word and in deed. As they see us working to complete tasks, either spiritual ones or physical ones, they see the joy that it brings to us and ultimately witness our faith in the Lord as it grows.

This is especially true during the difficult times of parenting. We are so often tempted to despair and frustration during the day, often letting the smallest of things set the tone and mood for the entire household. Our children, too, have their own struggles, physical and spiritual. By coming alongside them and sharing their problems, being sensitive to those things that genuinely trouble them, not lording it over them by lecturing or scolding them, working with them for their joy by listening to them and transparently telling them our own struggles, and by pointing them to Jesus,we will see them, little by little, standing firm in their own faith.

Puritan pastor Thomas Watson makes this observation of how Christians one another each other by being “joy helpers”: “One Christian conversing with another is a means to confirm him. As the stones in an arch help to strengthen one another, one Christian, by imparting his experiences, heats and quickens another. “Let us provoke one another to love and to good works!” (Hebrews 10:24) How does grace flourish by holy conference! A Christian by good discourse drops that oil upon another, which makes the lamp of his faith burn the brighter!”

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The Grace Awakening Book Study
Join me on an adventure as we study through Chuck Swindoll’s book The Grace Awakening. Each Monday I will post some thoughts from a portion of the book and we will discuss them in the comment section, making special application for moms. (Dads and singles are welcome to join us, too!) You can purchase a copy of the book (there are lots of used copies available via Amazon) or it is also available on audio. I don’t want you to feel like you have to read along to join in the discussion; I want this to be as stress free as possible. But I know you will enjoy the book if you read it……understanding and embracing grace is life changing and many have found this book to be a great encouragement after coming through paradigm based ministries, including some homeschooling groups. Please invite your friends, I know you will be blessed!!! We will be starting on July 23rd!
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truth from the Word
"Whom have I in heaven but You? And there is none upon earth that I desire besides You. My flesh and my heart fail; But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever." Psalm 73: 25-26
more truth from the Word
"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." ~ Ephesians 4:32
Francis Chan says:
"Our greatest fear should not be of failure but of succeeding at things in life that don't really matter."
Tim Keller says:
"God’s love and forgiveness can pardon and restore any and every kind of sin or wrongdoing. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you’ve done. It doesn’t matter if you’ve deliberately oppressed or even murdered people, or how much you’ve abused yourself… There is no evil that the Father’s love cannot pardon and cover, there is no sin that is a match for his grace." ~ Tim Keller
Tim Keller also says:
“The Christian gospel is that I am so flawed that Jesus had to die for me, yet I am so loved and valued that Jesus was glad to die for me. This leads to deep humility and deep confidence at the same time. It undermines both swaggering and sniveling. I cannot feel superior to anyone, and yet I have nothing to prove to anyone. I do not think more of myself nor less of myself. Instead, I think of myself less.” ! Tim Keller in The Reason for God.
Oswald Chambers says:
"If we simply preach the effects of redemption in the human life instead of the revealed, divine truth regarding Jesus Himself, the result is not new birth in those who listen. The result is a refined religious lifestyle, and the Spirit of God cannot witness to it because such preaching is in a realm other than His." ~ Oswald Chambers
Phillip E. Johnson says:
“When pressed in interviews to name my heroes, I have spontaneously responded that they are homeschooling mothers! To me, the heroic mothers who nurture the next generation of faithful Christians are among the leaders of the church.” ~ Phillip E. Johnson
John Stonestreet says:
“C.S. Lewis said that for every new book we read, we ought to read three old ones. But I think for every latest, greatest new homeschooling book you read, go find three old homeschooling moms and ask them what happened and what worked.” ~ John Stonestreet
Carolyn Custis James says:
“The power of our theology comes alive when we take the truth personally. Holding God at arm’s length—no matter how much theology we think we know—will never make us great theologians. We have to learn to write our own names into the plot. God will always be the subject of our theological sentences but our sentences are incomplete until we make ourselves the direct objects of his attributes…..Simply knowing a lot of theological ideas, no matter how orthodox and sound they are, will never turn us into great theologians. Theology isn’t really theology for us until we live it. Not until we learn to make explicit connections between what we know about God and the race we are running will we taste the transforming power of our theology. Fixing our eyes on Jesus means reminding ourselves of all that He is to us now. He brings meaning to our routines and energizes us to tackle the difficult tasks at hand. Fixing our eyes on Jesus gives us hope to offer disheartened husbands and hurting friends, and the wisdom we need to raise children who will fix their eyes on Him, too.” ~ from Carolyn Custis James in When Life and Beliefs Collide
Anne Ortlund says:
“So what do we do to encourage them to grow inwardly, to become resourceful and creative, to think, to meditate, to lay the foundation for growing up well? Don’t push, but affirm them! Give them the sense that all is well, that their rate of progress is acceptable to you, that you like them just the way they are…..Guide them but be delighted in them. Let them know that life is to be reached for and drunk of deeply…..Enthusiastic, that’s how you want them to grow up! The word comes from “en Theo,” or “in God.” Support them with words of faith, hope, and love, and in that framework “in God,” they’ll be ready to tackle everything. Fears and cautions are built in at an early age but so is courage! Tomorrow’s world will be different if your child has been released to experiment, to risk, to lead others, to pursue righteousness, to be an affecter for good in society, to go courageously after God.” ~ Anne Ortlund in Children Are Wet Cement
J.C Ryle says:
"Kindness, gentleness, long-suffering, forbearance, patience, sympathy, a willingness to enter into childish troubles, a readiness to take part in childish joys, these are the cords by which a child may be led most easily, these are the clues you must follow if you would find the way to his heart." ~ J. C. Ryle in The Upper Room
Clay Clarkson says:
“Many Christian parents, myself included, tend to speak to children as though they were Pharisees. We can speak harshly and with judgment, implying by our manner that their hearts are hard and resistant. But this attitude is not justified by Scripture. There is no record of Jesus ever speaking to a a child in a harsh tone. When the Gospels record Him speaking to a child, it is always with gentleness. Our children are not our adversaries. Though our children’s hearts are corrupted by sin, they are not hardened sinners who have made conscious choices to reject the Savior. Our children are simply immature and childish. That’s why children need love and compassion, not harshness and guilt.” ~ Clay Clarkson in Heartfelt Discipline
Tim Kimmel says:
“Grace can’t be some abstract concept that you talk about in your home. It has to be a real-time action that ultimately imprints itself in your children’s hearts. To talk about grace, sing about grace, and have our children memorize verses about grace – but not give them specific gifts of grace – is to undermine God’s words of grace in their hearts. Grace means that God not only loves them but that He loves them uniquely and specially. The primary way to give our children grace is to offer it in place of our selfish preferences.” ~ Tim Kimmel in Grace-Based Parenting
Chuck Swindoll says:
"You want to mess up the minds of your children? Here's how - guaranteed! Rear them in a legalistic, tight context of external religion, where performance is more important than reality. Fake your faith. Sneak around and pretend your spirituality. Train your children to do the same. Embrace a long list of do's and don'ts publicly but hypocritically practice them privately...yet never own up to the fact that its hypocrisy. Act one way but live another. And you can count on it - emotional and spiritual damage will occur. "
Kathy Thile says:
"I say this gently, as the parent of grown kids, knowing *insert parenting guru* is also the parent of grown kids: we have wonderful children — he does, I’m sure — and so do I. But without even knowing his children I can know this about them: they are not perfect. They hurt. They make mistakes. They struggle. They are prideful and overly simplistic at times; and crippled by shame and hesitancy at others. Yes — they are beautiful examples of human beings, his children (I assume), and mine (I know.) But they are not perfect. If they were, they would not be human. If it were possible to raise children to perfection, then God would have sent a parenting method, not Jesus. Our marching orders are not to raise our children by a method to be like *insert parenting guru* children. Our marching orders are to be Christians to and with our children." ~ Kathy Thile
Anna Quindlen says:
“The biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make while doing this. I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of the three of them sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages 6, 4 and 1. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less." ~ Anna Quindlen
Winston Churchill says:
“My education was interrupted only by my schooling." ~ Winston Churchill
John Taylor Gatto says:
"The shocking possibility that dumb people don’t exist in sufficient numbers to warrant the millions of careers devoted to tending them will seem incredible to you. Yet that is my central proposition: the mass dumbness which justifies official schooling first had to be dreamed of; it isn’t real." ~ John Taylor Gatto
Fred Rogers say:
“Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood.” ~ Fred Rogers
thatmom says
"The truth is that the way a marriage becomes truly heavenly is for each husband and each wife to pursue, really pursue, a relationship with Jesus Christ, to commit to obey the Word of God, to set aside each of their own agendas and paradigms, and then as they walk in the Holy Spirit, as they are sanctified, a little at a time each day, they will grow closer to one another. Godly wisdom will manifest itself in purity, peace, gentleness, mercy, a willingness to submit to one another, the fruits of the spirit, and no role-playing (the true meaning of hypocrisy). (James 3:17)" ~ thatmom
thatmom says:
"We need to approach our children not as character projects, but rather, we must see them with hearts of sympathy, with compassion and understanding, and with ears that listen. You see, homeschooling is not about lesson plans and research papers and standardized tests. Homeschooling is about building a relationship with our children, friendships that will last our entire lives on earth and clear into eternity. Homeschooling is merely the tool whereby we build those relationships." ~ thatmom
thatmom knows:
As a homeschooling mom, I have realized that everything, ultimately, is outside of my own control. I have learned that the unique circumstances that happen in my family have occurred because God’s plan is so much bigger than my own. It is knowing this truth about God and in experiencing that truth with those in my home that has enabled us to face past challenges and that will prepare us for all those difficulties that still lie before us.
thatmom realizes:
If I think about 37 years of marriage, times the number of loads of laundry I have done for 2 parents, 6 children and 1 grandma, I am amazed to know that I have washed, dried, folded, (sometimes ironed) and put away roughly 27,526 loads of laundry. That is over 215,000 socks! Or, in that same amount of time, provided 38,324 meals for a family and sometimes guests. Or that I have overseen nearly 21,500 hours of education of one sort or another during that time. Just thinking of these numbers takes my breath away. ~ thatmom
thatmom says:
"Real books from the library, a tub of art supplies, being read stories rich in vocabulary, a variety of good music, the daily discussion of God’s Word and how it relates to the world around him, and the attention of a loving parent who includes him in all the activities of real life are the secrets to a great learning experience for children." ~ thatmom
thatmom says:
"Being a mom is sort of like being all the people who crowd into a basketball arena all at once. Sometimes we are the players, the ones who are responsible for everything that is going on and our presence is front and center. Sometimes we are the coaches, giving comfort and encouragement, instructing with a clipboard in hand. Other times we are the referees, no striped shirts required but whistles are a must to break up the disputes when the game isn’t played as per the rules. Still other times we are the fans, cheering wildly from the stands, shouting from a distance but not from the floor. And then there are the days when we are the cheerleaders, the ones who scream 'Yeah, you can do it.' " ~ thatmom
thatmom says:
“The beauty of homeschooling is building relationships within our families and inspiring our children to become lifelong learners, gently leading them into the truth of Scripture and trusting that the work we have begun will be brought to completion by a sovereign God who has a plan for building His heavenly kingdom.” ~ thatmom
thatmom says:
"A family that embraces a paradigm becomes lazy and doesn’t study the Word of God for themselves. They take what others state as gospel. They have to check in with the “expert” blogs to see how so and so is doing it. It requires little effort and, truthfully, little leadership on the part of the parents. Dads who think they are turning the hearts of their children to themselves are really turning the hearts of their children to the dad’s gurus!" ~ thatmom
thatmom also says:
“After parenting for 36 years, I have come to realize that all paradigms are basically a list of do’s and don’ts that someone has created. Instead of embracing a list, I have discovered that it is best for me to run all ideas, philosophies, and paradigms through my “one-anothering hopper.” I ask myself if the suggestions or ideas I am hearing will serve to build my relationships or will serve to tear them down; will they reflect the one-anothering commands of Scripture? I ask if they are a picture of Christ and His relationship with me as His needy daughter. If not, I am not interested, no matter how much appeal they might have for any number of reasons.” ~ thatmom
thatmom says this, too:
“The word wisdom is used in Exodus to describe the knowledge that the Lord gave to the skilled artisans so they could make Aaron’s garments for worship. We are told that these workers “were given wisdom and understanding in knowledge and all manner of workmanship.” I have never had to sew any garments for a priest to wear for worship. I have not had to sew any draperies or build any walls or prepare any inner sanctuary as per the Lord’s instructions. But I have been called to give all I can toward the goal of building up children in the faith, preparing children for life outside my home, children whose bodies, we are told, are called the very temple of the Holy Spirit, children whose job it is to worship in spirit and in truth." ~ thatmom
what does thatmom believe?
" What is thy only comfort in life and death? "That I, with body and soul, both in life and death, am not my own, but belong unto my faithful Savior Jesus Christ; who, with His precious blood, has fully satisfied for all my sins, and delivered me from all the power of the devil; and so preserves me that without the will of my heavenly Father, not a hair can fall from my head; yea, that all things must be subservient to my salvation, and therefore, by his Holy Spirit, He also assures me of eternal life, and makes me sincerely willing and ready, henceforth, to live unto him." ~ Heidelberg Catechism
What does it mean to be a Christian?

1.We must acknowledge that we are all sinners. “For we are all become as one that is unclean, and all our righteousnesses are as a polluted garment: and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, take us away. (Isaiah 64:6) and “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23)

2.We are all accountable for our own sins before God. “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.” (2 Corinthians 5:10)

3.There is only one way to be forgiven of these sins and that is through the blood of Jesus Christ. “Jesus said, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (John 14:6)

4.If we confess our sin to the Lord and repent of it (not allow it to rule in our lives) we can be forgiven and be in right standing with God. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousenss.” (1 John 1:9)

5.Genuine salvation will result in living lives of good works but none of those works contribute in any way to our standing before God which is based solely and completely on the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross. “But when Christ had offered for all time a single sacrifice for sins, He sat down at the right hand of God. (Hebrews 10:12) and “Not by works of righteousness which we have done but according to His mercy He saved us by the washing of regeneration and the renewing of the Holy Spirit. (Titus 3:5) and “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.” (Ephesians 2:8)

6.We all, men and women, boys and girls, have direct access to the throne of grace because everyone who is a born-again believer in Jesus Christ is called a “priest and king” in God’s economy. “But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for His own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.” (I Peter 2:9)

I believe that many of the false teachings within the patriocentric movement are in direct contrast to these Scriptures and I would encourage each of us to first examine what we believe about Jesus and His work on the cross, its implications and its marvelous power.

Secondly, I would challenge anyone reading here to examine your own heart and ask yourself whether you have been trusting in good works….baptism, homeschooling, church attendance, modest dress, the list goes on and on, or if you have placed ALL your faith and hope in Jesus’ blood and righteousness alone.

And finally, I would challenge you to examine the teachings within your own church system, whether it is Protestant, Greek Orthodox, Roman Catholic, etc. Ask yourself what your church teaches about ecclesiastical authority and family authority. Does it line up with the Word of God? It is a top down system that requires certain works in exchange for a relationship with Jesus Christ or do you have the assurance that you are saved for eternity by His death on the cross in your stead? Does it teach that the fruits of the spirit and obedience to all the one anothers is what our lives will demonstrate or is there a list of man made rules?

If you desire to talk with me about this, please send me a note to shesthatmom@gmail.com. My desire is that no one who visits this website will leave without knowing the glorious truth that we can have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and can enjoy a life filled with His goodness and grace!

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Adoration of the Home was painted by regional artist, Grant Wood. The original hangs in the Cedar Rapids Museum of Art. Ben Campbell and Lon Eldridge deserve extra cookies for writing, performing, recording, and mixing Mom’s Prairie Song for the podcast intro and outro. Great job, guys. Garrison Keillor would be proud.

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